Both man and women should be attracted to the service of the Lord.
“In these instructions of Lord Kapiladeva, it is explained that not only is the woman the gateway to hell for man, but man is also the gateway to hell for a woman. It is a question of attachment. A man becomes attached to a woman because of her service, her beauty, and many other assets, and similarly, a woman becomes attached to a man for his giving her a nice place to live, ornaments, dress and children. It is a question of attachment for one another. As long as either is attached to the other for such material enjoyment, the woman is dangerous for the man, and the man is also dangerous for the woman. But if the attachment is transferred to Krishna, both of them become Krishna conscious, and then marriage is very nice. Srila Rupa Gosvami therefore recommends:
anasaktasya visayan yatharham upayunjatah
nirbandhah Krishna-sambandhe yuktam vairagyam ucyate
(Bhakti-rasamrta-Sindhu 1.2.255)
Man and woman should live together as householders in a relationship with Krishna, only for the purpose of discharging duties in the service of Krishna. Engage the children, engage the wife and engage the husband, all in Krishna conscious duties, and then all these bodily or material attachments will disappear. Since the via medium is Krishna, the consciousness is pure, and there is no possibility of degradation at any time.
Source: A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada (2014 edition), ” Srimad Bhagavatam“, Third Canto, Chapter 31 – Text 42″
